First of all, what really is a relationship? Let’s look at the definition from the dictionary.
noun: relationship; plural noun: relationships
the way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected.
synonyms: connection, relation, association, link, correlation, correspondence, parallel, tie-in, tie-up, alliance, bond, interrelation, interconnection; interdependence of
“the relationship between diet and diabetes”
the state of being connected by blood or marriage.
“they can trace their relationship to a common ancestor”
synonyms: family ties, family connections, blood relationship, blood ties, kinship, affinity, consanguinity, common ancestry, common lineage, connection;
an emotional and sexual association between two people.
“she has a daughter from a previous relationship”
Relationships are a Distraction
-James, grow up and be a man for god’s sake!
-But I don’t want to have more kids with you! I just don’t want to! We already have one!
-No, no! You have to provide for your family, that is me – your wife – and my clone, that is – my kid. It isn’t yours. It’s my kid. Don’t you ever forget that you only provided some squirmy sperm and a bunch of DNA. Grow up, be a man – drop your passions and hobbies and serve me… your divine vagina. Oh, but I am so more than just a vagina. I just use this crack between my legs to control you. This is your only purpose on this planet, this is the only outcome in your life that you should chase. You need to believe me! You need to do it, really!
-I don’t think I will.
– James, where are you going, don’t you believe me? Hey, you asshole! Get back here! Oh damn, another one didn’t catch up that hook. Let’s check some Ok Cupid.
(some hours later)
-Hey, honey! What’s your name! Jack? That’s cute. How are you today…?
The Real Relationship
See how this can distract you from… literally, everything? Why everyone believes that of course, relationships of their friends are pathetic and weak but the one they’re in will last forever and is just great (however, under the skin they know that isn’t the truth and they are suffering just as everyone else?)
Internet is full of articles dedicated to this very topic. Various ghostwriters described practically every part of a relationship, tenfold. For some reason, the version that prevails is that you should be devoted to your partner – and then she will reciprocate. We all know how this works in real world.
But what exactly is a relationship? Where it begins? Sexual interaction often stops or subsides really fast. Does that mean relationship ceases to exist by then? Of course not. There’s also “intimacy” which means that you have exclusivity to regular arguments with that one person you “love”. Arguments between couples are always the worst. Maybe because they are forcing themselves to keep going in this weird arrangement? Maybe that’s why landlords rarely want to rent flats to couples. Who knows.
In fact, you can get intimate (I am not referring to sex) with anyone who will be one to one with you for a prolonged period of time. That’s why there are so many unplanned pregnancies during power outbreaks or harsh winters in cities. People suddenly stuck in the offices or homes got too much time to get to know each other. 😉
It seems to me that in order to be in a relationship you need to be in a close physical proximity. So, when the person you are with leaves the house are you still in a relationship with her? Everyone will say – yeah. But being in “a relationship” doesn’t add a magical glowing beacon above your head. Nor her. That means if anyone will try to sleep with her, you need to trust her. That she won’t do it. And we all know that Trust is a Lie.
Why women with kids on Facebook always have pictures of themselves together with the kid but the father rarely can be seen? I tell you: it’s only about them. A child of a woman is a woman, cloned. Father is just a provider. A necessity. A servant. A tool. So that she can clone herself, feed herself (both mentally and/or materially) and fully satiate her being as a female. That is, to feel cared, served and entertained.
Why it never works for so many of us? Are we all dumb? Are the majority of men don’t get it? And if that’s true, how women were able to go for so long without telling us how we are doing it wrong? Of course, that’s not true. We are okay. They are just using us and our genuine will to make it all-right. We use logic, they use “feelings” but one thing is for sure- when it comes to divorce calculations suddenly they can turn off their feelings just like that and sail on logic just until they receive our paycheck. Isn’t that interesting?