Don’t Try to Save Her
Only a short piece for this week update as I’m really busy with everything here.
Do not try to save her from herself.
Do not save her from her responsibilities.
Do not save her from consequences of ignoring her responsibilities.
I can’t underline this enough. Women need to stop being treated like a sacred cows. Today after work I went to the underground garage for my bike. There was a girl somewhere in her 30s, trying to un-lock her own bicycle from the bike stand. There was like 30 bikes parked there. Every stand can have two of them locked from each side. It often gets packed in full and it can be tricky to remove your bike, I admit. She removed the lock, but somehow pushed the bike on the other side, which slowly but surely started to fall down on the side.
It took a good 2-3 seconds before it went down with a huge “smash!” landing on its drop-bars. I felt that she was waiting for me to take action and save her. She could easily move her ass and save that bike from falling. I was kneeing just next to it as I was unlocking my own bike which was approx. 50cm to the right side. I did nothing.
She was like “Oh…” but without much guilt in her voice. I bet she was more surprised that a male didn’t saved her from the consequences of her wrong-doing. This is what males are for after all, right? Look around. They built all these tall office buildings just so that women could remain comfortable in them. Sigh.
I said “Well it can be tough to remove them sometimes…”.
She just replied that “Well at least it’s not raining today!” trying to spin a joke out of it (didn’t worked out) and rode away.
You might ask what about basic kindness and whether I would help if it was a man’s bike? Probably I would. But a man would not be so carelessly removing his own bike to smash the other one, I can guarantee you that.
I am kind, but not towards the gender that’s not being kind to me. At least, not mindlessly and on autopilot like most males are. Sometimes I let things slide, so that a girl can feel how carefree she is and that others can see it. Not everyone will cover up after your ass, honey!
We want to be kind! Being kind is okay. We want to be okay.
We don’t want to be assholes. There’s already too much evil on this planet.
But, women do not leave us other choice. They’ve asked for it.