Purple Pill Bullshit

I’m back, and I am well. I am just finding myself on my new place, so that makes me very busy as usual. Not a lot of new content as life sometimes suck you in.

I’ve once slept with a call-girl. She was very inexperienced. You could tell from the first seconds. She was young and nice. It was a nice meeting. I always wonder why such a girl does it. Maybe because she can? You know, you can earn 5000 EUR per week, meeting several clients per day for 30 mins. I need to work my ass off for much longer to get that amount of money. She will wash herself and that’s it, just like hooking up with several businessmen using the “normal” way. And 5k in your pocket. But she was naive, she used the same phone number for her private life so I could check out her profile picture on whats-app and see her with her brother, in a very natural setting. How stupid you can be to use your normal phone number when you’re making a week off to work as an escort? Seriously… I wonder if her brother knows about her little sis hidden hobby. I don’t think so.

Women are whores. Period.

Women, eh.

Don’t hate them. They are merely doing what the nature programmed them to do – to find a suitable provider and build a nest. Of course they wont stick around if youre unsuccessful nature is cruel indeed.

We are just a bunch of intelligent monkeys trying to pretend we arent.

You know whats even more absurd? Men spend all their lives building that false facade, that “show”, that fucking nest so that they can attract females. Then they come and take away everything and suck the male dry – literally. It’s so not worth it. But I guess anyone who’s afraid of loneliness, deserves it. We don’t have any other choice, really.

The whole socializing stuff, sharing everything on your fucking social media playing for the females so they can be engaged on your FB profile, commenting and giving out likes so you get a bit of social validation which then raises your fucking social status… it’s pathethic. We all cry out for privacy but we give out everything about our lives on a silver platter. That information is not even encoded properly! It’s just pure madness. The moment I went to Minds.com I realized one thing: a very small number of people share their own lives there in the same way as on Facebook. Nobody shares pictures of their day, or what they had for the fucking dinner. Nobody cares that much about likes or other shit like that. Because it doesn’t matter! Minds.com is about something else. And then it makes me wonder: why would anyone even wanted to share pictures about the fact they went to a cinema, like who cares? To get that short dopamine burst of social validation after receiving a few likes? It’s pure madness. Now suddenly everyone is am extrovert narcissist. It’s crazy.

Of course, social validation coming from women is volatile as fuck… it can be lost in seconds if you wont play the music females want to hear. It disgusts me. And say just this and you will be called misogynist or a women hater instantly. By whom? By fucking beta males, manginas and other pussies like that. People are so weak. So stupid.

Purple Pill bullshit

And what those Purple Pill life coaches have to say? “Well oh man I know that sometimes women just go crazy, but you know what I do I just go talk with my male friends and we gather and share that yeah they are all crazy but what we can do” is that it? Is that fucking it? That supposed to be a solution? No, I refuse to get married and get some privileged girl pregnant so that she can reap all of the benefits.

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This will be short: screw Facebook and their inhumane corporate censorship policy!

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I encourage everyone to say “bye, bye!” to this FB nonsense and join the rest of the free minds!

Steve Mayeda

During my long lasting hobby of checking out various coaches and lifestyle trainers I’ve already wrote about Corey Wayne. Corey was directing himself towards a bit of  a healthy Red Pill and at the same time being aware of the whole MGTOW movement, but never really indulging in it and being accused of never proving to be with any girl (personally why he should share his private life with strangers?). Plenty of people find out that his methods are simply accurate and I respect his work towards celebrating healthy masculinity.

..then there’s this guy – Steve Mayeda. He’s openly admitting being in a long term relationship with two kids and an admirably cute wife. Of course, he posts pictures of his own family openly on varous social media and there are people hating him for this. You see the pattern? Once you’re more or less successful, the haters always come and try to put you down.

I must admit it, I really do like his balanced and mature content. Just as Corey Wayne admitted that he had a fucked up childhood with schizophrenic mother and some alcohol involved, so do Steve openly says that he had a drug addiction problem in the past and that he had done plenty of cheating in his older relationships. I’ve listened to a good bit of his podcasts and he raises a lot of good points. Of course, half of the MGTOWalready maturedcommunity of kids will shut down his message because he dears to say that he doesn’t fancy MGTOW. How dare he can have his own opinion! But this only proves the things he is saying about. I recommend you watch this video where he is talking about important topics – rape, consent, being sexual and also MGTOW and The Red Pill for a bit. It might open your eyes that there is more than one side to the same topic we talk about. Masculinity is complex. You might not agree with everything but if you consciously choose to limit yourself to just one worldview, you’re hurting yourself. 

 

There’s of course a small hook: his The Sexual Life package comes with a price: 2000 USD dollars. You can as well join his Men’s Development Group on Facebook which is free and consist mostly of a group of men coming from mixed backgrounds. Personally, I haven’t found there anything extremely useful. This is often the cause in a very moderated and somewhat censored groups. Why I use the word censored? Well, I should say moderated but is there a difference? 😉 If you’re a hard radical MGTOW you won’t have your voice heard over there. Same probably goes with The Red Pill. And I get it, it’s his own project so he sets up the rules.  But apart from that, his YouTube content is free. If I was to choose from RSD Tyler , Corey Wayne and Mayeda’s content at this moment I would probably went with Mayeda. However, there’s a nice twist to this story and you will find out about it after reading the whole article.

But back to the topic, being a man doesn’t mean we should limit ourselves to just one idea. This is why I’m slowly migrating away from pure MGTOW content here. During the last 2,5 years I’ve touched on PUAs, The Red Pill and MGTOW topics massively and frequently. Now, we will be moving straight into more clear masculinity topics. I believe that the best thing is to mix and match everything to suits your own personal needs. In life, there are no definite sets of data that mark your journey as ever finished. Believing that would lead to stagnation and that’s not what we want. At least not what I want.

I recently received an email from one of my readers who share my current view on the whole manosphere scene, so to say. MGTOW community has quickly become very closed and hermetic which is self-limiting in itself. Instead of development it causes stagnation. I believe that a true man would never limit himself because then what’s the difference from being a fanatic? Or a feminist? There is none. Sex and desire is a beautiful thing, women should not be hated. I believe that we can produce great things but only together, when our gender differences are being celebrated instead of forcefully put together under the “gender equality” bullshit. We are not equal, but we aren’t better or worse. We are just different.

Of course I will probably face a heavy backlash from the MGTOW community because I am saying this. They say they don’t hate women but they are lying. They do. And most of the people saying they are identifying themselves as MGTOWs are just inexperienced kids who never been in a serious relationship or “get laid” enough. They hide behind the MGTOW tag because they were hurt and they carry on their own trauma (maybe they had a shitty parents, or a toxic relationship with their own mother?) That’s a very bad approach. Any radical approach is usually very bad. It won’t lead them to happiness. Of course, there are exceptions but I am talking about the main current. I’m in my middle 30s. I don’t want to castrate myself and forcefully shut down my libido. Why would I? Sex is great. If you look at sex only from the side of women using you, you won’t ever be at peace with yourself. If you were hurt during bad relationship, or sex or whatever – you won’t cure and heal this trauma by shutting yourself out from sex, relationships with other people/women. It simply won’t work. It will just isolate you more. And no, this doesn’t mean I am recommending going into long term relationships with women – I don’t. I wonder how many of you already went into meltdown. See, how crazy and close-minded you are about this? Wake the fuck up. Right now! You are planning to be a monk until you’re 70 and your dick stops working? Really? Good luck. 

If I can get good sex and enjoy the company of women, all of the tension disappears and I simply enjoy myself being a man. Being not an alpha man, not a radical MGTOW, not a master Red Piller, not some sort of another weird label that only limits my expression but being a man. 

As for me, MGTOW was an important step during  my personal journey of discovering who I am myself and who I want to become. It was a step and not a final nail to my coffin. See the difference here? What I discovered was a man who don’t want to hate women, enjoy spending time with them, love having sex with them and a good laugh. I enjoy being at peace with myself and other human beings and I say no to hate and negativity towards the other gender. That doesn’t mean I will tolerate any breach of my own personal boundaries. ejaculating 3 times per day to internet porn with females in itBut how any modern male can have strong personal boundaries and talking about being a strong man yet at the same time is beyond me. So many of them need to just grow up and mature. Again – any radical approach is usually very bad. It might not feel like that at first, but then it will hit you. It will hit you when you will be lonely, surrounded by toxic emotions and feeling lost. We need more than just internet pseudo-friends who will support our twisted view on the world. And yes, there are more to being a male than just one way of living. Take this report of Mayeda’s receiving a birth of his own son. No, I don’t want kids. I don’t want a wife. But I still can appreciate his story and be open to the great beauty and mystery of life.

As Mayeda says:

“The social movements that are coming from damage, that are coming from people’s pain… the men’s movement, the women’s movement. You guys are the same fucking thing! You just coming from different angles but both of you depended on detachment and controlled definition of the others to empower yourselves. Traumatic bonding. It could be men coming together to talk shit about women or women coming together to talk shit about men. Or it can be people dysfunctionally coming together through sex.

Can’t really add anything to it. It sums it all up, perfectly. If your goal was to cure & heal yourself MGTOW will probably become just one step in a long journey. If your goal was to isolate yourself and spread hate, you are probably going to stay inside those already very isolated circles.

So far so good, right? Almost too good to be true. I was so close to admitting and going with the conclusion that Mayeda is the real deal here… however, however! Read this up gentlemen! I joined his free FB group under one of my alter egos so that I cannot be recognized as “this dude Datson Horrenbrand with unpopular opinions!” and made a random comment under some of other user’s post. He added a link depicting a typical men shaming story. I won’t go into the details, but a dude posted a hyperlink to an article fear mongering about the topic similar to the rape culture man-spreading (and all that craziness) asking what the members thought about it. Looked like a normal question. I replied that it looked to me like a typical click-bait article that only puts men in the bad light and certainly does not do anything good for the women either. Few hour later my post was deleted. No explanation, no nothing. If this is how his project works, I am out of it. I admire Mayeda’s message and in many parts I agree with it  however, I will never agree to censorship like this on any sort of social media. This is exactly what killed Mgtow.co forum. If I am not allowed to voice my thoughts, what’s the whole point of the “development”? It becomes an isolated group just like MGTOWs or TRP or PUAs are. Okay, maybe they don’t want to stir unnecessary discussions. Maybe they only want “already matured” individuals that are okay with any sort of content. Bear in mind that after reading this group plenty of men felt to me like typical manginas/blue-pillers and no, I won’t drop these labels Mayeda… they are real and useful. And my comment wasn’t radical. I wasn’t bragging about MGTOW or anything. Or hating women in it.

After a short research I’ve found out that the guy posting that link was added by another dude, who was added to the group by Steve Mayeda himself. That another dude is an admin there. So the whole puzzle is solved for me. Another FB admin on a power trip unfairly covering ass of his colleague.

It looks like a little circle of mutual admiration. And don’t forget, if you still need some development as a man and you think that other men can teach you something, you are also willing to pay 2k USD to join Mayeda’s inner circle on The Sexual Life platform/community. As of now, Corey Wayne has also a nice and sensible stuff that has much more views and is not asking for such a huge amount of money for his paid content/coaching. Remember that always when you will feel “not complete” there will be people trying to sell you stuff. Mayeda often brags how he slept with hundreds of women. I doubt it. Why create such unrealistic stories? It just sounds not true. And it’s stupid because he is trying to sell much more worthy content.

Aha! One more thing – final nail to his coffin. One other person posted a picture telling a story about someone who was divorce-raped. “Wanted to get some opinions on this. I couldn’t imagine what I would do in this situation, but from the looks of what’s written here and based on current political climate, it doesn’t look like there’s much a man can do once it’s in motion. One has to get as skilled in early detection and disassociation of such people, it seems…” he wrote under the pic. Mayeda quickly responded So if you’re passionate about an issue like this 1) Help that person 2) Work on changing the laws or the court systems 3) Don’t think complaining or gossiping is changing anything”. He also explained why he believes this is the right way. I won’t cite the whole answer but just a short point from me: I don’t think this is complaining or gossiping. This is spreading the truth about what some women can do to you. Just my five cents on this.

From what he wrote it looks like Mayeda’s was divorce-raped himself. He replied how he “sucked it up”, paid 50k in legal fees, went to jail, have not been able to see his kids for 5 years… pretty tough shit. He said that “one should learn how to differentiate crazy people from non-crazy people, don’t think everybody is crazy, don’t make it a cause, accept full responsibility – for instance at all points in my life something bad happened, it was usually because I put myself in the situation, don’t blame people, KNOW THAT LIFE WILL FUCK YOU…When you GET FUCKED move on; So I know a lot of happy people who are successful with money and business and they have all been screwed and write it off and move on…then make money and life happen.  Then I know people who get screwed and complain about it and they are never successful in anyway. ”  

And I agree with that! But at least in my opinion he should know better that not every man is aware about divorce-rape and not talking about such sad news causes men even more harm than pretending nothing bad is happening. 

At this point I’ve left Mayeda’s free group being disappointed from the double standards that are present there – I remember when he stated in one of his videos how he doesn’t agree with the typical description how men should be “alpha” and so on, yet a friend of a friend (the one I replied to with the post that was deleted later) posted about a well-known article about descriptions of various types of men- from Beta, to Alpha. Guess what? It wasn’t deleted. So yeah, mixed conclusions. Double standards and censorship connected with favoring your own circle of people? Fuck that shit. What’s the difference between this and RSD Tyler who is also asking for huge amount of money to sell you false hopes. I don’t see any. Sad, because Mayeda’s content has already earned a place in my heart. And by the way, I am always a bit skeptical about a dude who is married with kids talking about “hundreds and hundreds of sexual lays, hook-ups, orgies and what-not”… I don’t know… maybe he’s right, maybe not. But for sure he didn’t had hundreds of them. That number is just not rational. So why lie? Does lie sell? Maybe it does.

Well, we are all humans and it seems to me that I no longer want to join any of the other men’s circles. I haven’t found any that I could identify with in 100%. You might already sense what this means. Instead, as yet another side project (separate from RedMaleHummingbird), I am slowly creating my own.

Brahmacharya (Misleading descriptions of a woman’s beauty)

Brahmacharya (/ˌbrɑːməˈtʃɑːrjə/; Devanagari: ब्रह्मचर्य) literally means “going after Brahman (Supreme Reality, Self or God)“.[1] In Indian religions, it is also a concept with various context-driven meanings.

In one context, brahmacharya is the first of four ashrama (age-based stages) of a human life, with grihastha (householder), vanaprastha (forest dweller), and sannyasa (renunciation) being the other three asramas. The brahmacharya (bachelor student) stage of one’s life, up to twenty-five years of age, was focused on education and included the practice of celibacy.[2] In this context, it connotes chastity during the student stage of life for the purposes of learning from a guru (teacher), and during later stages of life for the purposes of attaining spiritual liberation (moksha).[3][4]

In another context, brahmacharya is the virtue of celibacy when unmarried and fidelity when married.[5][6] It represents a virtuous lifestyle that also includes simple living, meditation and other behaviors.[7][8]

In the Hindu, Jain, and Buddhist monastic traditions, brahmacharya implies, among other things, the mandatory renunciation of sex and marriage.[9] It is considered necessary for a monk’s spiritual practice.[10] Western notions of the religious life as practiced in monastic settings mirror these characteristics.

Misleading descriptions of a woman’s beauty

Poets have exaggerated the beauty of ladies. They are misguided persons who put young men on the wrong path. Descriptions like “damsels with bewitching eyes”, “face like the moon”, “rosy cheeks and honeyed lips” are false and imaginary. Where is the beauty in the dead body, in old women, in sick ladies? Where is the beauty when a lady is infuriated? You are aware of this and yet you cling to their bodies! Are you not confirmed fools! This is due to the force of Maya. How mysterious is the power of Maya and Moha! The beauty of a woman is false, artificial and decaying. Real beauty is undecaying and eternal. The Atman is the source of all beauties. His beauty is everlasting and undecaying. It is ornaments, silken clothing with fanciful borders, dressing of the hair with golden hairpins, flowers, application of powder to their faces, lipstick to the lips and unguent to their eyes that lend a temporary decoration and artificial glittering to the women. Deprive them of their face powders, their ornaments and gaudy dress, and ask them to wear a simple white cloth without any border. Where is the beauty now? The beauty of the skin is a delusion only.

Poets describe in their fanciful, passionate moods that honey flows from the lips of a young, beautiful lady. Is this really true? What do you actually see? The stinking pus from the sockets of the teeth that are affected with dreadful pyorrhoea, the nasty and abdominal sputum from the throat, and foul saliva dribbling on the lips at night—do you call all this as honey and nectar? And yet, the passionate, lustful and sex-intoxicated man swallows these filthy excretions when he is under the sway of excitement! Is there anything more revolting than this? Are not these poets culpable, when they have given such a false description, when they have caused great havoc and damage to passionate young men?

Behind the shining skin there is the raw flesh. Behind the smiles of a young lady are hidden frown and anger. Behind the rosy lips lie germs of diseases. Behind the gentleness and kind words are hidden harsh words and abuses. Life is fleeting and uncertain, O passionate man! Realize the beauty of the Atman in the heart. The body is the abode for diseases. The net of affection in this world is strengthened by long indulgence. It has entwined its thick knotted twine around your neck.

Minus skin, minus dress, minus ornaments, woman is nothing. Just imagine for a moment that her skin is removed. You will have to stand by her side with a long stick to drive away crows and vultures. Physical beauty is superficial, illusory and fading. It is skin-deep. Do not be deluded by external appearances. It is the jugglery of Maya. Go to the source, Atman, the beauty of beauties, the everlasting beauty.

This was a fragment of Brahmacharya,
inspired by burtcoins (Reddit)

Masturbation (24 liters of Cum)

Hi everyone. This is a heavy topic. I will try to cover a bit of everything in it, and also we’ll have a ride through a bit of neuro-chemistry. 😉 Let’s go!

Good or bad?

Some people believe that masturbation is healthy. And they would direct a ton of ton of hate speech towards me just by suggesting otherwise! Yet, there is a significant group stating that it can cause problems. Who is to be trusted?!

I think the major division comes from the fact that every group answers from their own perspective and is unable to see that their truth applies only to them. The ones that never had any problems with addictions, compulsive behavior (OCD) or anything like that – for them masturbation is probably normal and healthy. They don’t experience any negative symptoms and they don’t pay much attention to it. They often feel only the positive ones from it (cessation of sexual urges and relaxation to name just two). The other group indulging in masturbation suffers from social anxiety, depression, lack of motivation and inner strength. And they swear by it. But why? Let’s put aside moral questions (if in 2017 there are any left, really 😉 ) and look at the science.

Neuroscience of orgasm  24 liters of Cum

Masturbation, orgasm and ejaculation are three completely separate acts/events for your body. What happens when you masturbate, have orgasm and ejaculate? Apart from feeling great, you expel from your body a significant amount of substances that are ought to extend your life – by impregnating an egg. Your semen contains the very best genetic package you can produce. And that’s very good. Not so good if you deplete your body from it several times per week over a course of a decade just to give an example. That would be a lot of semen!

Average ejaculation is approximately one teaspoon. That’s 5ml. Let’s say you do it 5 times per week. That’s 100 ml per month. 1.2 liters per year. If you started when you were 10 years old and you’re 30 now, you’ve ejaculated 24 liters of cum. You could take a bath in it. Just imagine that now you filthy bastard.  24 liters of pure genetic code and the very best essence of your own body. Cool. But once you shoot it out, it’s no longer in you. Your body needs to produce more and that causes a whole spectrum of symptoms. Let’s have a closer look.

Ejaculation depletes electrolytes (magnesium, potassium, sodium) in trace amounts however zinc (approx. 5mg), selenium and copper are lost in significant amounts. Upon ejaculation there’s an orgasm. Upon orgasm testosterone, serotonin, acetycholine and dopamine are also lowered, prolactin is raised. High levels of prolactin are associated with poor mood, tiredness, and many different health issues. Also, it’s not only about loosing nutrients and neurotransmitters. It’s about the whole process. Because even masturbation without orgasms (“edging“) or orgasming without ejaculation causes severe consequences for the whole body. I tend to look at a human organism from the holistic point of view. Holistic means “whole”.

holistic

həʊˈlɪstɪk,hɒˈlɪstɪk/
adjective
PHILOSOPHY
characterized by the belief that the parts of something are intimately interconnected and explicable only by reference to the whole.
MEDICINE
characterized by the treatment of the whole person, taking into account mental and social factors, rather than just the symptoms of a disease.

Western doctors don’t cure the illness, they always just give us something to tame the symptoms. Very often they don’t even know or care about finding the true cause of a disease in their own patient! That’s the curse of modern medicine. They treat the body like it was a car: fuel pump is not working okay, we will just put in a new one. Lamp not working? Just repair the lamp. And so on. And patients? They lack knowledge motivation and dedication so they go to a doctor feeling terrible, and they get prescribed antidepressants. And this often makes everything worse because they keep living in the same way and just add another addiction for their brain. It’s tragic. And well nobody wants to come back from a doc without anything. We expect doctors to act and to prescribe us something, right?

People don’t realize that the excess of anything is bad for us. Of course, people are different. If you had an alcoholic father who was drunk all the time, your parasympathetic nervous system would be different to the one belonging to a person from a normal family who loves parachute jumping. Your dopamine & norepinephrine (adrenaline) pathways would be extremely sensitive. You might find yourself caught up in excessive masturbation from an early age because it temporarily shut down the constantly stressed out body and provided an escape. Orgasm releases dopamine. This is the place where the famous “Coolidge Effect” takes place. It is also known as the Chaser Effect (after one orgasm one wants to experience another one, as soon as possible)

One of the major risks of this dopamine cycle is that this neurotransmitter thrives on novelty. Even after being sexually satiated, many people (especially men) can easily get aroused in the presence of a new sexual partner. This phenomenon is called the “Coolidge Effect””. The “Coolidge Effect” term was first used by Ethologist Frank A. Beach in 1955 based on an old joke about U.S. President Calvin Coolidge. Apparently, the president and his wife were doing a separate tour of an experimental government farm. At the chicken yard, Mrs. Coolidge noticed that the rooster was mating very frequently. She inquired with the attendant and was told that this behaviour happened dozens of times a day. Mrs. Coolidge said, “Tell that to the President when he comes by.” When the President was given that message, he asked, “Same hen every time?” The attendant replied “Oh, no Mr. President, a different hen every time.” The President responded “Tell that to Mrs. Coolidge”. The Coolidge Effect has been identified in almost all species, and in some animals (i.e., male rats), the male will continue to mate until he almost dies of exhaustion. In humans, this phenomenon can set the stage for sexual infidelity and a host of problems ensuing from this indiscretion.

This of course means that pornography, due to a constant novelty of changing “partners” can provide a very dangerous self-sustaining feedback loop massively depleting your dopamine pathways. Of course a month of excessive masturbation won’t do any harm. Besides, what is “excessive” is also disputable. However, this process repeated over many years will create further problems. Doing it multiple times per day, or consistently to the point that disrupts the normal endocrine-nervous system interaction often led to various symptoms such as fatigue, thinning hair, and soft erection.

-Why I am balding, mum?  -Your father was balding at your age, too!

Wait a second? Thinning hair? Maybe that’s why we have so many balding men? And doctors say it’s “genes fault”. I call bullshit on that. We blame genes for everything! But how over-masturbation can make you lose your hair in young age (middle 30s?). You see, when you masturbate and have an orgasm, your endocrine-nervous system produces bad version of prostate hormones, prostaglandins E2.

Prostaglandins are found in most tissues and organs. They are produced by almost all nucleated cells. They are autocrine and paracrine lipid mediators that act upon platelets, endothelium, uterine and mast cells. They are synthesized in the cell from the essential fatty acids. A specific sub-type of them called prostaglandins E2 are being released by your prostate. Normally they are being produced by the body when there’s an inflammation. But, in the case of chronic masturbation prostate thinks the constant arousal is persistent and treats this as an ongoing inflammation.

Constant masturbation means your testosterone levels raise up (that’s good), which in turn raises DHT. DHT is dihydrotestosterone and you can say it’s like the essence of testosterone. It’s like 5x more potent version of it. And here’s the crux: if there’s constant high level of DHT in your body, the prostate produces PE2. And that’s why the problems start.

Excessive masturbation or premature sexual activity (before puberty) often depletes essential growth hormones, neurochemicals and neurotransmitters that result in prostate exhaustion and weakness. Prostaglandin E2 functions as an anti-inflammatory hormone in the body that helps relax muscles, inhibits the release or noradrenaline, and acts as a direct vasodilator. When high levels of the stress hormone are present, usually because of excessive masturbation/sex, men start to experience penis pain and prostatits which is just a chronic prostate inflammation.

Prostatitis is an inflammatory condition of the prostate gland. Typically, cases of prostatitis result from a bacterial infection, although evidence of infection is not always found. If your prostate is infected or inflamed it can cause a myriad of symptoms such as painful urination and ejaculation, and accelerated frequency of urination.

Your body is inflamed all the time! And the local inflammation spreads out and affects the functioning of your whole body!

Those are scientific facts that some of you refuse to accept. Your accepting them or not won’t make them disappear. You can ignore reality but you cannot ignore the consequences of ignoring reality.

I can only believe that those of you who refuse to understand this basic science are either not affected by masturbation by having different brain plasticity (thus meaning you are “safe”) are very young (if you’re younger than 25 years old, you can ejaculate 3 times per day and nothing bad will happen because your libido is still so high…that is- in most cases, because again everyone is different and I’ve heard about guys having severe problems even in younger age) or you are just too deep into your own addiction to admit it (so no rational thinking or arguing will do any difference here and certainly not the one coming from me).

Every other man that realizes this might be the case and he has a problem needs to further evaluate his own life and make a correct decision.

What kind of problems we are talking here apart from inflamed prostate? Things like loss of libido, ejaculation issues (premature ejaculation, not being able to orgasm), not being able to have an erection with a real partner and so on. Nothing funny. Oh wait, let me just do the whole list:

Premature Ejaculation
Watery Semen
Poor Memory
Depression
Social Anxiety
Unable to achieve orgasm
Chronic Insomnia
Poor Multi-Tasking Ability
Headaches
Testicle Shrinkage
Poor Erection
Penis Shrinkage
Chronic Prostatitis
Blood in Semen
Acne
Seminal Leakage
Painful Testicle
Chronic Fatigue
Erection Problems
Penis Pain
Lower Back Pain
Hair Loss
Performance Anxiety
Stress & Mood Swings
Penis Insensitivity.. okay, that list is long enough don’t you think?

Yeah, nothing funny indeed.

I don’t want to sound like I’m bringing the bad news. If you’re mature enough to recognize whether you have a problem and you are addicted you also need to be strong enough to make a decision to quit. And then, you will need to be bold enough to not give up until you will be healed. And from what I’ve read it won’t be easy. I know one guy who is heavily addicted to sugar. He sweets everything, tea with 4-5 teaspoons of sugar, cakes, desserts, candies and so on. He is on a straight way to having diabetes. When I suggested that to him, instead of sugar he stopped being my colleague. Haha, that’s how lazy, weak and stubborn some people are. It’s depressing that they are so decisive and stubborn, but not in the correct way!

Porn industry is one of the biggest in the world. Everyone says “masturbation is healthy”. And so on. You would not hear the sad truth from the official media. Obviously not. If you are healthy, never had any problems or addictions (most of us had them, drugs, alcohol, smoking, caffeine, weed, sugar, adrenaline etc) occasional masturbation/porn is okay. But too much is just too much.

Orgasms are not something to be indulged in every day, massively. Ancient systems like tantra are also backing up this position. Make up your own mind – are you doing it too much and it’s hurting you or not? If you don’t want to try and check, the answer is probably yes. But again, you need to figure this one out for yourself.

That is definitely something to think about.

Moving forward.

Across the past two years this website gained a pretty significant audience – at the moment of writing this article Red Male Hummingbird has 140377 views. That is a huge number especially if you take into consideration almost no promotion or advertising. I tend to be very open and honest about stuff like this so I can admit that I don’t want to lose that audience. Who would want it? It’s fun. And it makes this whole project much more pleasant. However, above everything I need to remain true to myself. As you could notice the usual number of articles during recent two months went down a bit. There was a reason behind it and until now I didn’t had a good way to put it into words.

But here it goes: The formula of this blog as it is right now- dedicated purely towards MGTOW/TRP– no longer serves me.

Stardusk/Thinking-Ape in his recent piece is talking about a very similar topic. I will cite a few important comments/points from it (from random people) and I recommend you to watch it, too:

Stardusk – Das Reinheitsgebot, Beer and the Nature of Reality

Arcesious 2 weeks ago
I learned a lot from MGTOW. But at this point I no longer wish to identify with the label. I don’t want to tie myself down to any way of thinking so much so that I potentially blind myself. At the moment I still don’t wish to pursue a relationship or having children, but I want to keep an open mind. At some point I may try it out as an experiment. The only constant for me ‘ideologically’ seems to be a mix of empiricism and rationalism respectively, depending on which provides the most utility to investigating something.

Trevor Cormier
Even if all the bad legality was reformed you know by now that you’re are going to be involved an unequal relationship with diminishing returns over time. Some guys are willing to accept that. From the couples I’ve seen, the guy finds his life inevitably bogged down in banality, endless obligation and shots to his dignity from time to time.?

Arcesious
I saw what was happening to all the men around me and due to a questioning nature and introverted/solitary personality found MGTOW circles. After that I had a much broader idea of what was going on. I’ve heard countless horror stories and subsequent success stories and I’ve listened to/read content from all over the loose affiliations that make up the ‘MGTOW-sphere’. I know it inside and out, and was even active in a couple places dedicated to discussing the topic for some time. Not going to forget one iota of it or ignore the implications. I’m probably still going to keep ‘going my own way’ all but in name, it’s just out of principle that I want to stay open to experience/new information.?

realverdade 2 weeks ago
Arcesious more and more I notice that men who question mgtow weren’t significantly scarred by women. It might have some correlation and my assumption is that one can only go mgtow if they have battle scars.?

Arcesious 2 weeks ago
Heh, I’m just glad no one made any dumb comments like ‘you were never a real mgtow’, ‘you haven’t internalized the redpill about hypergamy’, or ‘oh look another simp going back to the plantation’. I just don’t believe anything should or can be above interrogation. I’ve had experiences of my own that colored my perception and one in particular that was actually all on me and my own youthful naivety, but I wouldn’t call them significant enough to qualify as having been ‘burned’.?

..and so on. First of all I believe that those “battle scars” which were mentioned above are necessary – not for you going MGTOW but just for your own development as a man. I love labels but at the same time I hate them. Why? They start to limit you at some point. Like “Oh, you’re enjoying the company of women? You’re no longer MGTOW!” (just to give one silly example) My journey went through various experiences with women in short long and casual relationships over more than 30 years of my life and past that. I travelled from the usual Blue Pilled monkey through The Red Pill and finally MGTOW. Every step on my journey had a somewhat clear label and a significant meaning.

Would you still be “MGTOW” even when you have a good relationships with women are popular and enjoying a lot of sex on a regular basis? Probably. But I have a feeling that this isn’t that common across men from most of the forums dedicated to MGTOW I’ve encountered during my experience in making of the RedMaleHummingbird. What you concentrate on tends to grow. There is a lot of hate towards women across all those forums (and even in older articles here, on this blog). And that’s something I really don’t want in my life anymore. It’s not even about hate towards women. It’s about hate itself. Negative energy. Pessimism. Lack of direction. Life is too short to indulge in emotions like that. Hate leads nowhere. At least not-where-I-want-to-be.

My own articles about healthy living and motivation were the least popular. The ones about sex, call-girls and how women are bad/evil/stupid were the biggest hits. Isn’t that interesting? At one point it hit me: I no longer feel as being caught up by those negative feelings/emotions and I don’t want to experience them again and again like some twisted fetish yet the community somewhat expects this from me. That’s when I stopped writing for a while. There’s no fun when you need to write something that doesn’t matter for you anymore just to get another 1k visitors. At least not for free. 😉

Ok, women are this and that. Briffault’s Law. Yeah, I get it. I’ve been there. I wrote about it many times. Anger phase. That’s in my past. But one needs to ask himself: what’s next? Of course there’s no turning back. The only way leads forward. And what’s in there?

I won’t be having kids, getting married or boring my ass out in LTR, don’t worry. That didn’t changed. Maybe it will when I’m in my 50s? Who knows. Nobody knows the future. But I don’t think so. I think I will try to write about other topics that interest me, without paying much attention to the number of visitors here. Something that might not even be connected with women at all. We shall see.

I must move on. Being stuck in one place is just stagnation. And stagnation is like mud – various unpleasant things start sticking into you.

See you next time.

The Four Male Archetypes

Blurbs on Humanity

The human race will go where the majority of the population goes. What most people do not realize is that everything that makes up our world just happened. TV, cars, refrigerators, air conditioning, indoor plumbing, toilets, washing machines, microwaves, computers, etc. have all just appeared in the last few generations, most things in just the last generation. Americans could legally own people as slaves just one-hundred and fifty years ago. Women could not own property, sign a legal contract, or vote until the 1920s, and women did not have equal rights under the law until the 1960s.

Tonight when you are lying in bed in the dark, imagine you are laying on the ground in pitch darkness, with no walls and doors, and thousands of insects and other strange creatures are out in the dark making loud noises. Imagine there are predators many times your size, with large fangs and claws, that can see in the dark and smell where you are sleeping. You were there. Beasts like the saber tooth tiger lived in the same places we lived up until about ten thousand years ago, and they were just one of many creatures that would kill and eat us alive. Remember, this is the way it was for 90% of our history.

Fire: We could not make a fire up until about forty thousand years ago. That means for about one-hundred and sixty thousand years, we had to go to sleep without a fire burning. For most of the time we lived on earth, we feared the night.

Roller-coaster: The pain of the past was balanced, but that does not make it good. When you won a battle or fight to the death or were successful killing an animal during a hunt, it was extremely pleasurable, because it meant survival. This is why men still feel good when we kill something. You were much more aware of the present, so life was much more fulfilling than it is now.

(“Truth Contest“)

Smiles

You smile = she senses your positive energy and likes you, too. Nope! You smile = she knows you’re vulnerable and amused by her.

In reality it’s so fucked up that you can’t even smile to the girl you like because then she’ll see you as less valuable because she’ll know you are being influenced by her. And she will go to the guy who is less affected by her. So you have to contain your smile and let her come to you intrigued by the fact that you are not moved even by an inch by her sexuality/body/looks etc. If she comes, that’s fine. If she does not – that’s also fine. That’s exactly the definition of wanting someone but not being needy. And I’m ok with that. But I’m not ok with not being able to smile. That’s just stupid.


The Male Archetypes in their Fullness

Warrior

Do something that scares you
Be more decisive
Quit seeking exits
Find your core values
Have a plan and purpose
Strengthen your resilience
Find out who you are loyal to
Establish and live via non-negotiable terms
Compete
Strengthen your discipline via habits and routine
Adopt a minimilist attitude
Take up a physical discipline e.g. martial arts

 

Magician

Commit to life long learning
Meditate
create more, consume less
work with your hands
take part in rites of passage
find a mentor
become a mentor
create a sangha
create a sacred space

King

Leave a legacy
Develop practical wisdom
Become a mentor
Find a mentor
Develop the virtue of order
Break away from you mother
Develop traits of true leadership
Establish your core values
Establish your core values
Develop a life plan
protect the sanctity of your ideas
become decisive
Avoid corruption
Live with integrity

Lover

Cultivate the virture of moderation
become fully present
find the centre of your bliss
Be spontaneous
work out what your lover needs

Which one depicts you? Of course, all four of them! Let that sink for a while.

What are the female archetypes? Well, nobody can decide. They say that it should be something like this:

Maiden/Virgin

Mother

Enchantress/Wild Woman/Lover

Queen/Wise Woman

PUA Scam

PUA Scam

Nowadays we have three major paths for men – PUA, The Red Pill and MGTOW.

RSD Tyler/Julien/Todd and the rest of their crew are a nicely cut fake scam artists. (just google “RSD faking infields” and do some research if their method works and check articles like this one ) If you ever tried their methods, you would knew what I’m saying. The only possibility of a quick make out exist if the girl is already after at least few drinks. And usually after few too many! Same with pulls. I don’t know about you, but I don’t find a lot of fun in sleeping with stinking smelly drunkards especially as I don’t drink at all anymore. So, the only way is the casual way. It takes hours out of your evening. It might be faster if you’re still in your 20s and partying in really big cities with like minded people.

If you keep stalking girls that are out just to be a little crazy and to have fun, you’d be blown out many, many times. From time to time you will get results but it’s just a numbers game. It’s not due to your “game” or some magic PUA skills. You will waste time, effort, money and your health – you can as well go to the good quality escort. You’ll get a similar dopamine rush before during and after. At least you can have better pre selection. 😉 Besides, go on and try to go out 3-4 times per week when having a normal day job and being in your middle 30s. It’s tiring. It’s pointless. It’s not that much of a fun, especially if you’re not a heavily extroverted person. And even if you are? I remember watching one video when RSD Tyler/Owen jokingly says that their business model was basically to outline the basics and then complicate them, and keep doing it so at the end the onion has so many layers that nobody knows what’s going on anymore. It works for clueless men who come to their seminars. 2k per one + millions of views on YT + thousands of dollars for their learning programs made them very rich indeed. Remember that sex won’t make you happy if your life is empty. If your life is empty, no woman would want to join your party, either. Owen likes to say that you should “ignore the negative energy” coming from a girl or better, ignore the negativity altogether. And stop listening to the voice in your head. Of course I agree that we shouldn’t overthink stuff too much, but saying that one should ignore your own intuitive voice is just stupid. After many years I’ve finally learnt how to get in touch with my own intuition and I won’t be dropping it anytime soon. Owen has a lot of good ideas that can be applied to a daily life, though. I don’t try to undermine that. Also he certainly posses a very magnetic persona – probably due to some personality issues. He confirmed this himself many times, by the way. Don’t forget that most people out there are just trying to sell you something and make themselves rich. The main point is that you don’t need their magic pills.

After three years…

Radical MGTOW version/way is, well, too radical… I am not impotent, I am not afraid of women, I don’t hate them, they like me and I like them. I have high sexual drive. I love sex and I love women who love sex. I won’t be pretending that’s not the case. We live in a very connected world and shutting myself away from any contact with the opposite gender doesn’t work for me. I don’t need to do this nor I want to do this, either.

So, what’s left? Well, the classical The Red Pill theory. After deep research of both PUA and MGTOW ways, I am going more towards TRP tradition now. And I must admit that Corey Wayne is still portraying the most balanced version of who I am becoming/want to become. His teachings lie somewhere between classical PUA, TRP and MGTOW. With a strong nudge towards TRP side that encourages short/medium term relationships but without radical absurdities of PUAs and monk-mode-MGTOWs.

Women are just women. We won’t change them. And they won’t change us. They are still better placed than us, because they can choose between beta “mangina” providers and alpha “IDGAF” fucks (or just between men believing in LTRs/Love/Kids/Marriage and ones that no longer believe in that bullshit) and that’s about it. We don’t have much choice. 😉 I don’t mind. I buy it. Life is short. Soon, all of us will be dead.

Life is  full of suffering. Yet, life is so beautiful. 

Forge through it. Find your own way.

Enjoy it while you can.

Love =/= Control?

Ultimately, we are all alone. And that’s fine.

And love is a scam. I am not talking about the universal cosmic love. That is something of far wider perspective. But our earthly, human love? It’s a scam. Biological imperative crafted by nature to maintain the continuity of human species.

We are being told that in order to love truly you need to love freely. To give freedom to the person that we love. But yet, at some another level, love also means control. And control means to worry. And you worry to lose someone you love because you care about them. And you can lose a person in many different ways. The feeling that a father has when his daughter slips into drug addiction? That hopeless realization that nothing can be done in order to save her? Yet, he tries to do it nevertheless. And only when he realizes there’s truly nothing he can do to help her, he quits. And gives up. It’s a tremendous sadness mixed with sorrow and grief. This is how I feel now. One of the people that were close to me, deliberately and stubbornly chooses the wrong path for herself. And just like in those books we’ve been told to never read, a small part of myself dies within. This is because a part of myself, of my heart, was living inside of her. And nothing can be done. After so many years of hard work and hope that one can recognize and change the bad habits. You can only save yourself. Other people don’t give a fuck about you or your hope to help them. They don’t want to be saved.

“I am happy only when I am unhappy”

Apparently a parent can never give up and leave his own child. Maybe some of them can. Maybe they do it only on the surface but deep down nothing is being resolved, and there’s no peace at heart. Ever. Maybe sometimes life throws us towards similar experiences, so that we can gain knowledge and recognize patterns.

But after every rainfall, there’s another breakthrough of clear weather. So, on one side I am asking myself “what the hell I am still doing here?” but on the other I know that soon everything will change for the better. For myself. Only for myself.

gergtgr

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there’s no end to this

 

 

How media manipulates us?

 

Women aren’t that pretty.

 

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