Don’t Be an Embarrassment to Masculinity

Our current world

“In a society in which nearly everybody is dominated by somebody else’s mind or by a disembodied mind, it becomes increasingly difficult to learn the truth about the activities of governments and corporations, about the quality or value of products, or about the health of one’s own place and economy. In such a society, also, our private economies will depend less upon the private ownership of real, usable property, and more upon property that is institutional and abstract, beyond individual control, such as money, insurance policies, certificates of deposit, stocks, etc. And as our private economies become more abstract, the mutual, free helps and pleasures of family and community life will be supplanted by a kind of displaced citizenship and by commerce with impersonal and self-interested suppliers… The great enemy of freedom is the alignment of political power with wealth. This alignment destroys the commonwealth – that is, the natural wealth of localities and the local economies of household, neighborhood, and community – and so destroys democracy, of which the commonwealth is the foundation and practical means.” –
Wendell Berry

Don’t Be an Embarrassment to Masculinity

“To have sex you have to exchange. You are affected by someone else and someone else is affected by you. It amazes me how much we run from this. We try and control sex and dominate and so on, but at its core we are meant to be influenced by one another. Feel someone else and let them feel you.

First you need to realize Monogamy, Polyamory, being a ‘Player’ are all man-made concepts. Your body, your emotions and your sex drive doesn’t care about any of those. It is going to feel what it is going to feel. If you have disciplined yourself in these concepts and you have no experience behind them you’re going to find yourself quickly abandoning them to the overwhelming feeling of love, sex and desire. There is nothing weak about this.

If you make a mistake and fall in love too fast, make too many commitments or get someone pregnant and you’re not ready for it, it is ok to back out of everything. As much as your closest friends may judge you, family members turn their backs and the person you loved now hates and vilifies you, it is not an excuse to do something you’re not ready to do.”Steve Mayeda

Listen to hear, not to respond.

What sex means to you? Do you do it because you want to dominate over women? Do you want it because you strive for intimate connection on a deeper level? Do you just want to get rid of your semen? Maybe it’s a mixture of every reason that I have mentioned? As one old sage once said, you should always surround yourself with women younger than yourself as the older ones will take away your vital energy and the young ones will replenish it. 

The Four Male Archetypes

Blurbs on Humanity

The human race will go where the majority of the population goes. What most people do not realize is that everything that makes up our world just happened. TV, cars, refrigerators, air conditioning, indoor plumbing, toilets, washing machines, microwaves, computers, etc. have all just appeared in the last few generations, most things in just the last generation. Americans could legally own people as slaves just one-hundred and fifty years ago. Women could not own property, sign a legal contract, or vote until the 1920s, and women did not have equal rights under the law until the 1960s.

Tonight when you are lying in bed in the dark, imagine you are laying on the ground in pitch darkness, with no walls and doors, and thousands of insects and other strange creatures are out in the dark making loud noises. Imagine there are predators many times your size, with large fangs and claws, that can see in the dark and smell where you are sleeping. You were there. Beasts like the saber tooth tiger lived in the same places we lived up until about ten thousand years ago, and they were just one of many creatures that would kill and eat us alive. Remember, this is the way it was for 90% of our history.

Fire: We could not make a fire up until about forty thousand years ago. That means for about one-hundred and sixty thousand years, we had to go to sleep without a fire burning. For most of the time we lived on earth, we feared the night.

Roller-coaster: The pain of the past was balanced, but that does not make it good. When you won a battle or fight to the death or were successful killing an animal during a hunt, it was extremely pleasurable, because it meant survival. This is why men still feel good when we kill something. You were much more aware of the present, so life was much more fulfilling than it is now.

(“Truth Contest“)

Smiles

You smile = she senses your positive energy and likes you, too. Nope! You smile = she knows you’re vulnerable and amused by her.

In reality it’s so fucked up that you can’t even smile to the girl you like because then she’ll see you as less valuable because she’ll know you are being influenced by her. And she will go to the guy who is less affected by her. So you have to contain your smile and let her come to you intrigued by the fact that you are not moved even by an inch by her sexuality/body/looks etc. If she comes, that’s fine. If she does not – that’s also fine. That’s exactly the definition of wanting someone but not being needy. And I’m ok with that. But I’m not ok with not being able to smile. That’s just stupid.


The Male Archetypes in their Fullness

Warrior

Do something that scares you
Be more decisive
Quit seeking exits
Find your core values
Have a plan and purpose
Strengthen your resilience
Find out who you are loyal to
Establish and live via non-negotiable terms
Compete
Strengthen your discipline via habits and routine
Adopt a minimilist attitude
Take up a physical discipline e.g. martial arts

 

Magician

Commit to life long learning
Meditate
create more, consume less
work with your hands
take part in rites of passage
find a mentor
become a mentor
create a sangha
create a sacred space

King

Leave a legacy
Develop practical wisdom
Become a mentor
Find a mentor
Develop the virtue of order
Break away from you mother
Develop traits of true leadership
Establish your core values
Establish your core values
Develop a life plan
protect the sanctity of your ideas
become decisive
Avoid corruption
Live with integrity

Lover

Cultivate the virture of moderation
become fully present
find the centre of your bliss
Be spontaneous
work out what your lover needs

Which one depicts you? Of course, all four of them! Let that sink for a while.

What are the female archetypes? Well, nobody can decide. They say that it should be something like this:

Maiden/Virgin

Mother

Enchantress/Wild Woman/Lover

Queen/Wise Woman

PUA Scam

PUA Scam

Nowadays we have three major paths for men – PUA, The Red Pill and MGTOW.

RSD Tyler/Julien/Todd and the rest of their crew are a nicely cut fake scam artists. (just google “RSD faking infields” and do some research if their method works and check articles like this one ) If you ever tried their methods, you would knew what I’m saying. The only possibility of a quick make out exist if the girl is already after at least few drinks. And usually after few too many! Same with pulls. I don’t know about you, but I don’t find a lot of fun in sleeping with stinking smelly drunkards especially as I don’t drink at all anymore. So, the only way is the casual way. It takes hours out of your evening. It might be faster if you’re still in your 20s and partying in really big cities with like minded people.

If you keep stalking girls that are out just to be a little crazy and to have fun, you’d be blown out many, many times. From time to time you will get results but it’s just a numbers game. It’s not due to your “game” or some magic PUA skills. You will waste time, effort, money and your health – you can as well go to the good quality escort. You’ll get a similar dopamine rush before during and after. At least you can have better pre selection. 😉 Besides, go on and try to go out 3-4 times per week when having a normal day job and being in your middle 30s. It’s tiring. It’s pointless. It’s not that much of a fun, especially if you’re not a heavily extroverted person. And even if you are? I remember watching one video when RSD Tyler/Owen jokingly says that their business model was basically to outline the basics and then complicate them, and keep doing it so at the end the onion has so many layers that nobody knows what’s going on anymore. It works for clueless men who come to their seminars. 2k per one + millions of views on YT + thousands of dollars for their learning programs made them very rich indeed. Remember that sex won’t make you happy if your life is empty. If your life is empty, no woman would want to join your party, either. Owen likes to say that you should “ignore the negative energy” coming from a girl or better, ignore the negativity altogether. And stop listening to the voice in your head. Of course I agree that we shouldn’t overthink stuff too much, but saying that one should ignore your own intuitive voice is just stupid. After many years I’ve finally learnt how to get in touch with my own intuition and I won’t be dropping it anytime soon. Owen has a lot of good ideas that can be applied to a daily life, though. I don’t try to undermine that. Also he certainly posses a very magnetic persona – probably due to some personality issues. He confirmed this himself many times, by the way. Don’t forget that most people out there are just trying to sell you something and make themselves rich. The main point is that you don’t need their magic pills.

After three years…

Radical MGTOW version/way is, well, too radical… I am not impotent, I am not afraid of women, I don’t hate them, they like me and I like them. I have high sexual drive. I love sex and I love women who love sex. I won’t be pretending that’s not the case. We live in a very connected world and shutting myself away from any contact with the opposite gender doesn’t work for me. I don’t need to do this nor I want to do this, either.

So, what’s left? Well, the classical The Red Pill theory. After deep research of both PUA and MGTOW ways, I am going more towards TRP tradition now. And I must admit that Corey Wayne is still portraying the most balanced version of who I am becoming/want to become. His teachings lie somewhere between classical PUA, TRP and MGTOW. With a strong nudge towards TRP side that encourages short/medium term relationships but without radical absurdities of PUAs and monk-mode-MGTOWs.

Women are just women. We won’t change them. And they won’t change us. They are still better placed than us, because they can choose between beta “mangina” providers and alpha “IDGAF” fucks (or just between men believing in LTRs/Love/Kids/Marriage and ones that no longer believe in that bullshit) and that’s about it. We don’t have much choice. 😉 I don’t mind. I buy it. Life is short. Soon, all of us will be dead.

Life is  full of suffering. Yet, life is so beautiful. 

Forge through it. Find your own way.

Enjoy it while you can.

Love =/= Control?

Ultimately, we are all alone. And that’s fine.

And love is a scam. I am not talking about the universal cosmic love. That is something of far wider perspective. But our earthly, human love? It’s a scam. Biological imperative crafted by nature to maintain the continuity of human species.

We are being told that in order to love truly you need to love freely. To give freedom to the person that we love. But yet, at some another level, love also means control. And control means to worry. And you worry to lose someone you love because you care about them. And you can lose a person in many different ways. The feeling that a father has when his daughter slips into drug addiction? That hopeless realization that nothing can be done in order to save her? Yet, he tries to do it nevertheless. And only when he realizes there’s truly nothing he can do to help her, he quits. And gives up. It’s a tremendous sadness mixed with sorrow and grief. This is how I feel now. One of the people that were close to me, deliberately and stubbornly chooses the wrong path for herself. And just like in those books we’ve been told to never read, a small part of myself dies within. This is because a part of myself, of my heart, was living inside of her. And nothing can be done. After so many years of hard work and hope that one can recognize and change the bad habits. You can only save yourself. Other people don’t give a fuck about you or your hope to help them. They don’t want to be saved.

“I am happy only when I am unhappy”

Apparently a parent can never give up and leave his own child. Maybe some of them can. Maybe they do it only on the surface but deep down nothing is being resolved, and there’s no peace at heart. Ever. Maybe sometimes life throws us towards similar experiences, so that we can gain knowledge and recognize patterns.

But after every rainfall, there’s another breakthrough of clear weather. So, on one side I am asking myself “what the hell I am still doing here?” but on the other I know that soon everything will change for the better. For myself. Only for myself.

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Mgtow.Co not coming back?

Over 100k! 

Welcome everyone. We’ve almost hit our 200 likes on our FB profile. If you consider controversial topics here that are often bordering on hate speech and misogyny, this is a nice achievement. In reality, we only exploit freedom of speech. Gladly, we can still have it around here. Also, we’ve hit over 63k visitors last year. Plus 58k from 2015, that makes exactly 96,391 people reading R.M.H. in the last two years. And when I add almost 10k that have already been here in 2017, we can proudly announce that 105,610 people were here since the launch. That’s beyond awesome. Thank you all. And btw, this is the 154 article published on Red Male Hummingbird. Some of them were better than others, but it’s nonetheless a huge amount.

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Fem Val

Female validation does nothing for me. You get a pat on the back if you do well. Literally. They come over, talk with you (expect to be entertained, so you joke back and forth and present masculine energy so that they can get their ‘ginas wet&tingle) and then they pat you on the back when going away. Or on a shoulder. This way they ‘claim‘ that they “approve” you and that other females should be jealous because you present some sort of value to the ones that “patted” you on the back. It’s really not about you. It’s about females showing other females how much fun they are getting out of you and how their value goes up because they are being around a real man. It’s phony and shallow. I mean I can get how it can be something valuable for some specific types of extroverted men looking for female validation, but somehow it does nothing for me. Fucking nothing. It’s just a burden. Am I ill, or what? Hahah.

I mean yeah, it feels nice but for me it’s just “I don’t care, leave me alone”. It only makes the whole environment expecting me to play this game harder and receive even more “pat-backs”. There’s no end to this! And one needs to spend 8 hours every day, 5 days per week at work. Social validation is so empty. Sigh.

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Mgtow.Co is down

For me personally it’s a huge disappointment. It was a good community. To kill it just like that without warning is a small insult. And a very sad story. Well, we will prevail anyway. Not the best move if you ask me. However, I do understand Alexander and his own reasons. But I always thought that MGTOW and male brotherhood is above politics.
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Random MGTOW Blurbs
A man strives to get direct mastery over things either by understanding them or by compulsion. But a woman is always and everywhere driven to indirect mastery, namely through a man; all her direct mastery being limited to him alone. Therefore it lies in woman’s nature to look upon everything only as a means for winning man, and her interest in anything else is always a simulated one, a mere roundabout way to gain her ends, consisting of coquetry and pretense.” — Arthur Schopenhauer, On Women

“The truths uncovered in this essay and many others is why I USE women for entertainment purposes only! They perform (sex, feminine company) or they are history.”

“I don’t love idealistically anymore but opportunistically like they do, the shattered remains of pedestals past serve only to remind me of the limited value that they bring to the relationship table.

“I have embraced male hypergamy and I’m always looking for an upgrade, I’ve even started shit testing THEM just for my amusement, I enjoy taking their hamsters for a ride.

They only play the “sexual retirement” card with betas, if she sees you as Alpha and her best option she will do whatever it takes to keep you around.

I don’t feel bad for using women this way because as much as we objectify them for their sexual allure, they objectify us for our utility value.

Even if she sees you as a “hawt” it’s still all about HER you are a reflection of her value, on display to her peers to affirm her position in the group.
You are still a utility even if If you achieve Alpha fucks status, they lack empathy and the ability to truly love anyone except maybe “their” children.

It’s not an accident that society conflates men’s servitude with qualities of adulthood – it’s the design.

As such, women begin to get nervous that their future provisioning and security are their own responsibility.”

From “Black Dragon Blog
Playdontpay comment from Rational Male blog:

“When men’s ambitions are centered on satisfying themselves and not about developing equity that’s useful to women, that’s when those men (and those who would encourage it) are shamed for not being an adult. They are shamed for not manning up or growing up to meet the needs of women and thus not living up to “adult responsibilities”.”
“Men have evolved to assess sexual availability of women and evaluate their fitness in the span of moments. This was a necessary evolutionary adaptation in the past in that it served men well to breed efficiently and evacuate quickly should a rival or monogamously paired man be in the vicinity to mate guard with violence. And this adaptation is also the result of women’s sexual strategy and predilection for making cuckolds of men.”

“This submission is a refutation of the title stated above and understanding the statement.
A post was recently made about how women are only fit to breed and provide sex ,and the title of this post was stated in the comment section. I find this very disturbing and disappointing that someone commenting on this sub would just make such a statement without any evidence or support.

The reasons why we don’t “treat everyone like human beings” are the reasons we found MGTOW. Treating everyone like human beings means treating everyone with respect regardless of age or gender. Furthermore, treating everyone with respect means having expectations that humans are inherently “good” or maybe “ok”; ie assuming they meet standards of decency and honor.

This gentleman also claims that he has female friends and they are “good” people(paraphrasing). Yes, women can be “good” to you as long as they are getting something in return;this also apply to some men. These kind of people only associate with people who can give them something of value at the very moment, once the value is gone, so are they(Women outweigh men in this). However, this is where men shine. Men will associate themselves with whomever they choose, regardless of what the individual brings to the table.”

“I am not dictating how one should live their life,This is just something I am placing on the table.From my little experiences and observations, the last thing you want to do as a MGTOW, as a man, is “treat everyone the same”, lest you’d be disappointing.”

Again “Black Dragon Blog“:

“Goals work. Affirmations work. Attitude works. Self talk works. Even when these things are negative. If you start believing and talking about how you’re going to be successful in life, then guess what? You’ll very likely be successful. If you start believing and talking that you’re going to die soon, then guess what?

Yeah. This stuff works both ways.

This is why you need to be very, very careful about what you believe, what you say, what you assume, and what you act on. When you say something negative about yourself, when you think something negative about yourself, it has real-world, external consequences to your life. Bad ones.

The problem is that you can’t see these consequences immediately. They take time to manifest. If you stab your own leg with a fork, you will see and feel immediate and terrible consequences. Therefore, I have a feeling you probably won’t do that.

But if you walk around thinking or saying “Women don’t like me” or “I’m ugly” or “I’m too short” or “I’m not good at making money” or “I’m a wimp” or “I’m a beta” or “I have oneitis” or “Women only like muscular guys” or “I can’t do that”, the negative consequences are just as real as stabbing yourself with a fork, except you can’t see them immediately. They take months or years to manifest, but trust me, they’ll manifest just the same.

Because nothing bad happens to you immediately, I have a feeling you’re believing or saying something negative about yourself right now. And if you are, you’re just as insane as the guy who stabs himself in the leg with a fork.”

Plus + Size

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Who the fuck would even touch this whale? And yet, women are lucky. Being with a fat woman is a fetish of so many men…

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Most of the girls were fat at least few times in their lives. You think from where they got stretch marks on their bellies, asses and legs? It is not some mystery disease that happens only to women.

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It happens because they didn’t care about themselves. It happens because they can get away with it. It happens because they are encouraged to not care about themselves.  It happens because they are still desired no matter how bad they look. Because they are lazy and careless.

 

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It happens because ugly whales like this can still get a string of males willing to serve them. Who the fuck would ever want to date such unattractive person? She’s HB4 at best.

During middle ages, she would be washing toilets. Nowadays, she’s some sort of social media star.

World has gone mad.

Friends

Did we went too far? Way over the top? Before discovering MGTOW/TRP I was able to have normal conversations with people, now the reality makes me unable to befriend people who have different views. It’s like politics- democrats hate liberals and so on. People are so divided. But maybe they were always like that and being an adult means having alienating opinions and just pretending you’re like everyone else? But then, what’s the fucking point if one supposedly posses “freedom of speech” but can’t be using it as it’s not “politically correct”?!

I was talking with a guy that I know. He said he probably don’t want to get married. He is a Muslim, and I like him. He had some signs that he might “get it”. But it’s pointless. Every time I try to explain something to him, he goes into some sort of brain_freeze mode and he isn’t able to say anything except women are equal to men, and period. He doesn’t get any arguments on the table, though. It is just as it is. I call BS on that, though. Have a look:

Him: “You would make a really good dominant daddy-type BF to some young blonde innocent girl, who’d have to agree to everything you’d say For now, just be content in the fact that there are people who are different than you, who are wrong. who believe in so many other things that to you might be laughable, accept them for who they are and do not try and change them even if you do not agree with their beliefs.”

Now, if he had enough of experience he would knew that young blondes are never innocent and they never agree to everything one says. 😉 Some people cannot be saved. The thing is: if you were wrong, would you like to know? Some people just WANT to believe that the earth is flat and they will ditch out anything proving otherwise.

Him: “Hahahaha, you are sexist, women and men are equal you know, so if they can do it why cant men do it”

Me: “Yes, but men don’t have a pussy. maybe some of them do hehe”

Him: “Women do not have a dick, still they are equal to men. They work it out somehow and so can we”

Me: “Sexes aren’t equal. never were, never be. we are different. we have different drives, purposes. to say we are equal means killing the diversity.”

Him: “Don’t ask stupid questions and look for logic. I am not listening to you, WOMEN ARE EQUAL TO MEN and that is the end of it”

However, his argument is objectively valid. People have different views. But if you knew the truth you would want to save your friends, right? Or at least try to explain them something? I can say the same: our MGTOW truth comes from analysis of logical facts. So what part in his rational thinking works different so that he ends up with “men are equal to women”? And every time I try to tell him “they aren’t equal, they are different, 1=1 but x =/= z … not worse or better, but we are not equal” and he simply doesn’t get it. It’s like a brain block or something. I am not even saying they are worse than us! Just different! No! “They are equal”.

I believe he views it not even as “women and men are equal, men were oppressing women for so long, poor females etc” as he doesn’t go that deep into this topic, but rather “women should have equal rights, we should support them”. Like they weren’t able to support themselves – they already are better than us. Much better.

How we can do something with people like him? Is there anything we can do?

I am suffering with inability to speak up my own truth. They can speak their own truth. And I can’t.
I am tired. Tired of societal conditioning. Because nowadays it doesn’t matter what you know or who you are. What matters is how good you can tell silly/funny stories that make women’s laugh. It matters how “social” you are. How many jokes you can make in a minute- of course to make our beloved women happy. It is just stupid.